How to teach perfect social Introductions to my child?
Making the first impression a lasting one is a skill we can all benefit from. In fact, you may be surprised how much better your social interactions can turn out if you start “right”. Here are a few tips about the art of INTRODUCTION that you may like to learn yourself and teach your child.
- INTRODUCING YOURSELF: This is the most simple and easy step as long as you remember your own name. At school, a party or any social gathering, look the person you want to meet in the eye, smile, extend your right hand and say “Hi, I am Kshama (your name).” If the person does not respond with his or her name, you can continue the conversation with “And you are?”
- INTRODUCING OTHERS: The adult world follows a certain set of rules for introductions. (If a child is making an introduction) You should say “Mother, I would like to present my friend, Naughty Arnav.” It is not necessary to add “Naughty, this is my mother.”
You may also say “Mother, I would like to introduce Naughty,” or, if you are in a hurry, “Mom, this is Naughty.” If you are not sure if they already know each other, you can turn your introduction into a question, “Mother, have you met Naughty?”
- THE SOCIAL LADDER: How do you know who to present to whom? The rule is: You present the person of “lesser” status to the person of “greater” status by saying his or her name first.
“Prime Minister, I’d like to present Raju the Postman.”
“Principal, I’d like to introduce my new classmate, Jenny.”
“Professor Petty, this is my Labrador, Diesel.”
The following table will help you get the social ladder figured out. A special note here: It does not mean the person with greater status is better than the person with lesser status, it is just a norm so don’t you take us otherwise and sue us.
- ADD A LITTLE INFO: When making introductions it is wise and kind to add a little information about the person you are introducing (not secrets- general nice info). This will help the two parties take the conversation forward and you are free to eat your food.
“Grandma, this is my friend Shiv. He plays cricket.”
“Dad, this is Mitesh. He designs Web sites.”
- BEING INTRODUCED: What should you do when you are being introduced? The following steps may guide you:
- Stand up: Use good posture while being introduced.
- Eye Contact: Give the person a friendly, warm look. (Avoid staring into space or studying your shoes. )
- Shake hands: Please shake hands with confidence and warmth. (How people hate getting those spaghetti handshakes or those super tight ones.)
- Greet: Say a warm “Hello”, or “How do you do?” or the good old, “Pleased to meet you.”
- Talk: Make some conversation, ask open ended questions and you may find something in common to talk about. You may make a new friend or two.
Hope these tips get you started on the right foot in the field of INTRODUCTIONS. Believe me, they can take you a long long way in your life and then you may write a new version of this article for the next generation.
The author of this article, Kshama Dudpuri is an enthusiastic reader and writer,education influencer, founder of POISE7 and wants to bring a change in the compassion meter in this world.